We like to think that our big kids are unfazed by this pandemic but the reality is showing up in their behavior. My son, a normally anxious kid to begin with had a moment today.
We were all outside and he’d just gotten fussed at twice for talking back and then had a run in with Crazy Eyes. None of these things are unusual. They happen all the time. This was different though. He rushed to the back corner of the yard underneath the shade of the tree there. I gave him a minute thinking that it was just frustration. I stepped in when I started to see his shoulders shake and he let out a big ugly sob.
I hugged my big boy until he calmed down. It’s easy to forget sometimes that he’s only a couple days shy of 8. The kid looks to be about 10 and is well spoken. We talked about how everything was kinda weird right now and how he’s having to spend a lot more time than normal with his sisters, especially Crazy Eyes. I reminded him that she’s still little even though she looks older too. I told him that things were going to be okay. I hugged him again and sent him inside to wash his face.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in our own feelings and thoughts and imagine that our kids are unaffected by all of this. It’s our job as parents to slow down and give them a little extra love and encouragement right now. That’s not to say we let them off easy when they act up, but maybe we give an extra hug before bed. Maybe we make our kids have some play time separate from one another instead of just waiting until they’re ready to kill each other. Maybe tonight we let him stay up just a little longer and play with his LEGOs. In the end, its better for us all.